When you have a shower, you usually wash yourself in the same order. Think back to your shower this morning. Do you actually remember washing each part – there’s a very good chance you don’t. You may have been focusing on how late you were running for work, or what you were going to wear or have for breakfast, or how to beat that tricky level in that game you’re playing.
And that lack of awareness matters. As we’ve lost touch with our physical environment, inside and out, we’ve started living inside our heads – and that’s not a healthy place to spend all our time.
We tend to focus more and more on the stresses in our lives – instead of those little moments that help us appreciate life and give us a feel-good boost.
Mindfulness – but it’s all in our minds
When you’re outside – stop what you’re doing (well, read through to the end of this paragraph first, or you won’t know what to do next!). Close your eyes and just listen. What can you hear? For me, it’s a faint roar of traffic – and bird calls I’ve zoned out all day. Next, touch something with your hands – the table in front of you, the clothes you’re wearing on your legs. How do they actually feel? When was the last time you noticed?
Now take notice of what you’re thinking. Sure, part of your brain is probably thinking ‘that article said I need to take notice of what I’m thinking – but how is that going to help?’ But being aware of what’s going on inside your brain right now is the first step to learning how to keep focusing on the present, rather than drifting off and brooding about other worries.
What’s the use?
Some people find that reconnecting with their surroundings gives them relief from everyday stresses that can become overwhelming. Best of all, it doesn’t need special training – although it definitely needs practice.
Mindfulness can help you to:
- Start taking pleasure in things in your surroundings you’ve been taking for granted.
- Become aware of how easy it is to get caught up in a spiral of unhelpful worries.
- See patterns of thoughts emerging. With time, you can learn to recognise when unhelpful flows of thought are taking over, and challenge and divert those patterns to more helpful and realistic thoughts.
- Recognise that thoughts are just ‘mental events’, and fight the temptation to let them control your mood and behaviour.
- Pick up early on signs of emerging stress or anxiety. This lets you use coping mechanisms to tackle them before they get out of control.
- Reduce the risk of depression, which can be triggered or fuelled by cycles of negative ‘automatic thoughts’ arising from how you’re feeling.
How do I start?
Take yourself off autopilot – It’s all too easy to do everyday tasks without thinking. If they’re not fun, you might think that’s not such a bad thing. But even taking time to smell the fresh clothes or feeling smooth cloth under your fingers while you’re doing the ironing can bring back happy memories.
Harness the power – Use your mobile to set yourself a regular reminder (maybe during your lunch break) to make time for mindfulness. You can download lots of free apps, which offer short mindfulness tutorials you can access each day.
Switch off – Commit to 15 minutes technology-free while you practice mindfulness. That game you’re playing will still be there when you get back!
Take the time – Find a slot in your day (ideally at the same time every day, so it becomes a routine) when you can set aside just 10-15 minutes to begin with. You may build that up over time, but the real key is to commit to taking that time out.
Get comfortable – You don’t need to be sitting cross-legged with your palms outstretched. You don’t need to be sitting in a sun-dappled garden. But ideally, you should be sitting in a comfortable environment.
Be present – Mindfulness isn’t about achieving nirvana, or going into a peaceful trance. It’s about paying attention to the here and now, and noting what’s happening without passing judgement (either positive or negative).
Make a mental note – If you do find your mind wandering off on to a worry, acknowledge the concern, park it for later, and bring your thoughts back to the present. Focusing on one element of your immediate surroundings – the feel of the sun on your face, the sound of distant traffic, your breathing – should help re-focus you.
Don’t judge yourself – A bit like riding a bike, practising mindfulness comes naturally once you’re used to it, but it’s normal to find it tough to focus when you’re starting out. Don’t be hard on yourself if you can’t cut off outside thoughts. When they start encroaching, just bring your mind gently back to the present moment.
Most importantly, don’t give up! You may find you can only focus for three minutes when you start – and that’s just fine. Try to build up gradually, one minute at a time.