All human beings experience anger. Anger is a normal, natural emotion which helps us recognise that we, or people and things we care about, are being treated badly. It is a hostility which we can feel towards people, but also towards animals and inanimate objects – like your controller!
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times, we’ve all rage quit, right? But, if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you, you should seek help.
Signs of anger
Anger is something we feel at all ages. How we deal with anger depends on how much it overwhelms our normal thinking and planning, on how we have learned to respond, and also on what we choose to do. Sometimes we act before we consciously decide which button to tap next.
Issues with anger include:
- Feeling angry a lot of the time
- Directing your anger the wrong way – for example, at the wrong person, or at the controller rather than people
- Feeling stressed, tired, and even physically unwell because of your anger
- Displaying verbal or physical aggression (online and offline), which may intimidate others
- Having a ‘short fuse’ – reacting with anger quickly or disproportionately to things that distress or challenge you
Where can I find help with my anger?
Your GP will likely want to try to find out what is making you angry, if there is an underlying reason for it, and if you are able to identify this. They’ll want to talk with you to discover if there are other factors contributing to your anger and any other issues, including mental health like depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.
You may have also heard about anger management therapy; this specific sort of counselling is aimed at helping you change the way you react to the situations that make you angry. Often done one-to-one or in a small party, it can involve counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy. Your GP will know more about what is available locally.